Monday Question: Who is Worth the Pain
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Monday Question 1
They say “In the end everyone will hurt you. It is up to you to decide who is worth the pain.“
And in a way it is really so. Because we do not live in a fairy tale world where evil is evil and good is good. We can hurt someone and someone can hurt us, too. But then we struggle to keep our relationships alive. And even with tears in eyes we forgive, forget and get over it (when we can) because anything worth the tears is worth fighting for.
The question is how many people do you have in your life that you can actually say are worth the pain?
If you have a question that you want to be answered send a mail to us to info@thecolorsmagazine.com. I will post the most interesting questions on the coming Mondays.
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interesting question..
the answer though might seem simple but isnt quite so..because in my opinion someone who is worth the pain would see to it that i never have to go through it because of him/her.
to me, what matters is not who i can die for…what matters is whom i can look forward to live the rest of my life for
and though the future is unknown and life is not always predictable, these are the people who will always take a bit of my life with them when they move away if god forbid, we ever have to part…and i will always trasure the bit of their lives that they will leave behind with me.
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Thank you for your input, Pri.
I agree that there are always people who are the part of our life and who we want to be with us till the very end.
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i would say *counting* humn.. humn..
i thinks there’s aloooooooooooooooooott of people on my life that worth the pain…
renee´s last blog ..I wish there’s a way that i could take my head off and put it down for a moment.. 
i dont mind getting hurt as long as they are happy..
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I like it, especially the way you want to see people you care about happy. Though I don’t think they will be happy seeing you hurt.
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This question is something that sums up how much worth each element of my ‘life’ holds for me! I will give a generic answer because I feel most mothers will relate to me. For me ‘a baby is worth all the pain!’
As a new mum I’ve realised that however much this baby is troubling me and in the future whose actions may pain me at some point…My love for him will never lessen! It is and will always be all its worth to go through all the pain, for his good. When I was birthing my son, I felt like I was in the middle of the most beautiful role anyone could get to play on this earth and all the pain seem to vanish !
Yes, my baby is worth all the pain in the world…
Vibhuti Bhandarkar´s last blog ..Bird on a wire
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bibhash
@Vibhuti Bhandarkar,
I respect u mom for the pain u feel is worth ur baby in the form of a token of love u got .. ur kid who will love u always
bibhash´s last blog ..10 reasons for joining IIT 
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That is a very beautiful answer, Vibhuti! I am sure all moms will agree with you!
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Hi Lena
Hmmm…. that’s a question that makes me think. I think I know exactly who’s worth the pain. I just don’t say it
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At least you know who it is
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Everyone I guess ..because life is crazy ..You never know what, why , how , when things happens yet sometimes they turn out to be good ,at times they teach you and at times break you , only to make a new / updated you …
Why I say “Everyone ” is because , thats inclusion of you and I too , and in this journey of life , soemtimes knowingly/unknowingly we too cause hurt/pain to others ..the reason is secondary - for good or bad , but we did hurt others , right ? So when others accept and love you , even though you cause them pain , why not everyone ??..Not for them , but for yourself ..Of course some use you , an the pain they give us bleeds our heart , but then the pleasure of feeling pain for others ( and often seeing them in pain , you are also in pain )everyne is not blessed with ..be glad that you could feel the pain , for the people out in the world dont have time for this !!
adreamygal´s last blog ..Pop Up ~ 2
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I like the way you are thinking. Makes a lot of sense to me!
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Well , the question appeared before me ( fortunately or unfortunately ) when I am in extreme pain . I just returned from the hospital today after a failed attempt to kill myself due to someone who hurt me like a hell ( a girl whom i loved more than my life , well that’s the biggest thing I have , wish i had something more .. i would have given that for her ) . But she hardly cares if I am dead as she gave me alternatives for dying like jumping in bay of Bengal or rot in hell ( she wud hardly care even now if she knows that I survived ! perhaps she wud have wanted me dead )
But having seen death so close , I realized that how much my life is important for those who really care and that outnumbers the count of one who caused the pain ( that’s just one against 100s that love me so much ) . I saw people crying for me .. my friends , my seniors , my roommate .. even the sweeper .I never knew I had sso much love in life !
Pain cant be given to you unless you accept it . Now I realize , while I comment on this post that I shouldn’t have taken her pain and let that result into an attempt to kill myself .. which in turn would have caused pain to many people who love me a lot .
Long time back , when I was a kid I read a story that someone offered a person a plate of sweets and he rejected it and said that he could reject insult the very same way . Now i think if someone gives you pain .. just reject it . I still have pain .. the physical pain .. the saline needles .. the tired body ….swollen eyes…broken heart .. but my mind is refresh as I have rejected her pain NOW.
I want to say all readers through this post ( or comment whatever Lena takes it to be like )that don’t accept pain if you don’t like it . Just live the life you want it the way to be . And no one can give u pain . JUST REMEMBER IT . I HAVE BEEN THROUGH IT YESTERDAY , THE DAY BEFORE YESTERDAY AND THE DAY BEFORE IT AND EVERYDAY BEFORE IT AND FOR LAST FIVE YEARS . AND I WAS FOOLISH ENOUGH TO ACCEPT IT EVERY TIME TO HURT ME LIKE HELL .NOW I M A ZOMBIE.
bibhash´s last blog ..10 reasons for joining IIT
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@bibhash,
Just swayed from the topic a little bit in flow of my emotional surge today ..so i need to add that pain is in every relation but counting pain is not a way to judge what people are worth ..see how much happiness they gave to u . Just like Vibhuti explained with the example of a childbirth ..is matchless and unquestionable . A father scolding son for something he did wrong is pain worth it . A journey travelled with pain to see your loved ones is worth it and so is dying for our country .
bibhash´s last blog ..10 reasons for joining IIT
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Suicide is never an answer or a way out for that matter, guess you know this now. I can only imagine how much painful it all was for people who care about you.
And I agree that in the end it matters how much happiness people give to you rather than how much pain you endure because of them!
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Vibhuti Bhandarkar
@bibhash,
Bibhash,
you shocked me out of my wits!
Amd then again you’ve awed me too..
You are a braveheart and a amn of courage I see…
Life has made you wise and it is indeed like you say..nothing can affect you unless you want it to!
Stay the way you are..in a few owrds you’ve shown what a splendid person you are within..Your light will be seen by the wise only and
your love will be seen by the wisest only, again!
Bibhash I dont doubt at all that u must be loved by many and more!
Believe in the power above and go for it man!!!
There’s only one life to be lived to the fullest…
DOnt waste your pain and tears on subjects not worth it!
Im sure readers will learn a lot from ur example..
cheers Friend
Vibhuti Bhandarkar´s last blog ..Not bad eh?!
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bibhash
@Vibhuti Bhandarkar,
thanks vibhuti .
bibhash´s last blog ..Cherish the good memories
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When you love someone unconditionally, be it a child, father, mother, husband or friend, he/she will be worth the pain. Beyond that, if you love someone and let them know it, thus giving them every conceivable weapon to hurt you, and that person, knowing his/her power over you, chooses never to hurt you - you’ve found the answer to your question. That one person will be worth everything. I have one person like that in my life whose extent of love humbles me. I’m lucky to have found him.
The others who are worth the pain - my parents, sister, niece, a few selected friends…they’re all special and worth the pain.
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You are right, opening yourself to someone is like giving them a chance to hurt you and when they don’t it answers all questions.
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Good question Lena!
I haven´t got such a person in my life right now but if a person does something evil against me and don´t regret it, I would think he is worth the pain, otherwise forgiveness should bury the pain down.
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I like how you use the regret part in it, and forgiveness.. Makes a lot of sense here.
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MY MOTHER. That’s it:)
Nehha´s last blog ..Dream Bubbles
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A beautiful answer to a complicated question.
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The question is how many people do you have in your life that you can actually say are worth the pain?
Everyone I keep in my life is worth the pain! All relationships involve pain at some time, and all good relationships have gone through a great deal of pain. It is through conflict that we discover one another and learn about ourselves.
Right now, my father is at the point of his life where he can no longer live alone. He was a pastor till last year, but his health is deteriorating. This means I travel 2 1/2 hours south to his home to take care of him and make sure he makes his doctor’s appointments when needed. It also means bringing him to my home and taking care of him by feeding him and monitoring his insulin intake and sugar.
Now, my dad is an extremely stubborn man, and taking care of him is not the easiest thing I’ve ever done. In fact it’s downright painful at times. However, this is my father, and he is worth any pain that might come my way to help him out, even if he doesn’t want helped.
This is an extreme example, but if you are truly a friend, you will endure pain when it comes. If you don’t know how to have deep relationships, you will jump ship when the pain comes along and find yourself alone in the end. Caring for others involves pain and risk, but it’s always worth it in the end.
Angela Young´s last blog ..Trading Spouses
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“but if you are truly a friend, you will endure pain when it comes” - this is the part of your comment that I liked the most!
You are right if you care for someone, like truly care, then the pain you occasionally have to bear, won’t matter.
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Worth the pain?
In my life, there’s only just one person like that…All the people whom i thought would stand by me and help me during my struggle times, have killed my hopes..But this one person has stood by me, during the happy times, and have held my hands during my struggling times…And though he loses himself in anger very often and do or say things that hurt, i think he is worth it…because he is the best friend in the world..
To generalise, i think those who are worth it, are those who love you the most…
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I agree, that people who love you the most deserve more from you too. You are ready to bear anything from them because they are a huge part of your life and make you a better person as well as stand by you when it’s needed.
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A lot of time..I have hurt my mom..unknowingly….ahh I sometime hated what she cooked and forced me to eat greens and sometimes asking me to wear a particular dress at certain age or even to study..so on…I sure behaved like a brat teenager…and took most of her acts and pain for granted!
Ralatively..360degree turn…and I grow up..
Today each time I fill a glass of water to drink or cook standing for hours in heat..I recall my mom..I iron my clothes..i take strong decisions of life…I recall my mom!
I sweat and I cry…it pains not for standing alone in heat and cooking or doing stuff but realising that I never acknowledge the pain that my mom took for me!
Perhaps…I never decided to give pain to mom nor did I decided to feel pain for my mom…indeed..my pain made me realise my strenght!
And yeah My strenght lies in my Mom!
~ Thankyou dearest Lena…for the question…it made me realsie i missed something..very important…in the hush of life!
~O dear..gotta call my mom and say her I love her so much
Keep the Spark ALive..
Rachana Shakyawar´s last blog ..Fool…
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Lena, the bigger the family the more pain there is, lol. The problem is I care too much about everyone, they don’t, and I am in pain on the end. Lena girl hope you are doing well. Its been while since I commented, but I peeked there and there. Anna
Anna´s last blog ..Who Is The Artist? 
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I think most of the people I have in my life right now are worth the pain, but then again most do not cause me pain - pain as in soul breaking, heart wrenching pain- I would not count the trifles or other differences that are bound to happen for no two individuals are alike. And hence the ones that are there, are there.
Nobody who is causing you pain like it makes you feel you should not exist is worth keeping. I’d consider those kinda ppl clutter, and having learnt the hard way, I decided to shove them into my trash can and move on.
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