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Sometimes You Love More

19 January 2010 43 Comments

Sometimes… just really sometimes… you wonder what this other person is doing.
If they are thinking about you?
If they worry about you?

You keep wondering what they are doing at this exact moment.

If they are reading a book or sleeping.
If they are watching a movie or are out with friends.
If they are looking at the same sky and searching for the same falling star to make the very same wish as you do.
If they see a couple walking in the park and remember about you and times you were walking together holding hands and laughing just like this couple does.

Sometimes… you wonder if they are missing you like you miss them. If they want to talk to you, if they want to hold you, if they want just to look in your eyes and find the answers to all the questions they have in mind. If they have any…


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But then sometimes… just really sometimes… they do not call you, do not mail you and you  do not get replies to your text messages. And then the only thing left for you is this wondering if they  miss you at all. And what eventually might keep them so busy that they can not find a minute …  just one minute to make you feel remembered, cared for, loved?

Someone once said that in each relationship one person always loves more. Maybe it is true. There is always someone who loves a bit more. A bit more passionate. A bit more strong. A bit more emotional. A bit more …

Sometimes… maybe not only sometimes… you are the one who loves more. And then you want to see if they will miss you if you disappear for a moment, an hour, a day, a week. You might want to make them realize what it is like… to wonder. But then you are also too scared to do it because deep inside you keep wondering, what if it does not make any difference for them.

Sometimes… just really sometimes… it is better to stop wondering.

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43 Comments »

  • Ankur said:

    Empty mind Wanders! ;)

    nice post… there is always one person in a relationship who loves more and in some relationships only that person love!

    deep thoughts! :)

    Cheers!

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    The Colors Magazine

    If only one person loves it is not even a relationship.

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    # 20 January 2010 at 12:17 am
  • Ankur said:

    but does it really matters if the other person loves u or not… cant we live with just our love?

    but may be… may be we are selfish… we want to be loved… may be!!!

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    The Colors Magazine

    while it is natural to want to be loved, it is also selfish. Don’t you want the best for that person? Even if that’s not with you?

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    # 20 January 2010 at 12:22 am
  • Henry said:

    Love is an unusual creature. If we ever figure it out, it will be the downfall of the human race. There needs to be a mystery about it for it work.
    As far as someone loving more in a relationship, I can see that. In the past I have been in a few where the other person has been more emotionally involved. There have only been a few that I have felt to be that person. In my marriage today, I’m not sure who has the stronger emotions, time will only tell.

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    The Colors Magazine

    I believe you are right in most relationships someone is more emoionally involved and it might make the other person feel underloved which actually might not be the case at all.

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    # 20 January 2010 at 12:29 am
  • Tony Anders said:

    I find that in my experience there is always one who loves more, or more deeply or more passionate, or more expressive. This is mainly because we impose “our personal interpretations” of love and the void we feel or what we feel we are giving more of to offset a give and take balance. I think we all love differently. Like Yin and Yang - complimentary opposites can fit harmoniously together. Love shouldn’t focus on what it needs, but what it gives. Blessed are we who find ourselves on the generous receiving end. Great post!

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    The Colors Magazine

    You kow, I love the wisdom of your comment… if someone does not love you the way you’ve always wanted, most probably they love you with all they have got.. we can’t expect everyone feel with the same intensity.

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    # 20 January 2010 at 1:06 am
  • Tony Anders said:

    I wanted you to know that I was fortunate to receive a blogger “nod” today from fellow blogger ~ Aine Butler Smith - http://theevolvingspirit.blogspot.com/ - and the award is the “Happy 101 Award” for positive blogs. I, in turn was asked to choose ten blogs I liked. Yours was one. If you go to my blog ~
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    I know some do not accept awards, nor pass them on. Either way, consider this my humble nod to you and what you do!
    Tony Anders

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    The Colors Magazine

    Thank you, Tony for the award! Really appreciated :)

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    # 20 January 2010 at 2:39 am
  • sulo badri said:

    “Someone once said that in each relationship one person always loves more”

    nice one - very well xpressed :) if only we wd stop wondering ;)

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    The Colors Magazine

    But I guess we never will :)

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    # 20 January 2010 at 4:10 am
  • Julie said:

    I’m wondering if someone always has to love more? In some relationships, maybe it is just that the other person expresses their love differently?

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    The Colors Magazine

    I guess you nailed it. I believe that probably the other person is just expressing their love differently.

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    # 20 January 2010 at 5:49 am
  • Julie said:

    Interesting thoughts though…

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    # 20 January 2010 at 5:49 am
  • Julie said:

    Interesting reflections though. I guess it doesn’t matter if someone always loves more or not, just whether we FEEL loved enough in the relationship.

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    The Colors Magazine

    And again I so completely agree with you.. Maybe it is really important that in any relationship we should feel LOVED, then it is not the question of someone loving more, but the question of someone expressing it.

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    # 20 January 2010 at 5:51 am
  • J.S. Brooks said:

    Nicely expressed, feelings universally felt. Applies to years spent in the field away far from home wondering what my spouse was thinking and doing while I was excavating.

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    The Colors Magazine

    I can only imagine what it would feel like to be away for so long from someone you love. All kind of emotions experienced..

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    # 20 January 2010 at 6:42 am
  • HOBO(nickname) said:

    Love is incomplete to be called love.
    Life is incomplete to be called life.

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    The Colors Magazine

    Life is incomplete without love…

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    # 20 January 2010 at 7:10 am
  • Ankur said:

    and did i forgot to say… beautiful! :)

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    The Colors Magazine

    yes you did!

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    # 20 January 2010 at 8:30 am
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    # 20 January 2010 at 5:55 pm
  • Suresh Khanal@icttrends.com said:

    Hi,

    I was floating on the feelings that you spilled all over the pages and dipped down with the rhythm of sometimes….

    Just i was sailing through the best chosen words, it tingled me, somewhere, if somewhere, the word THEY. When I was reading the sentences, I hope its natural, I feel if I am speaking through your words, but THEY, Oh My God, its not THEY - Its just ’she’ and just ’she’.

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    The Colors Magazine

    Of course it is “she” for you and only “she”. I hope you enjoyed the piece :)

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    # 20 January 2010 at 6:03 pm
  • Rajlakshmi said:

    it happens that one person always love the more… and when you are that person it hurts sometimes…
    another beautiful post :)

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    The Colors Magazine

    you are right, girl! It really does hurt.

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    # 20 January 2010 at 6:21 pm
  • Akanksha said:

    Nice post! And so true! It happens all the time!

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    The Colors Magazine

    yes, it really does… I wish it happened less often, people would be ore happy then.

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    # 20 January 2010 at 7:26 pm
  • Kma said:

    I agree with Tony who said people tend to impose their own impose interpretation of love. I think I would take it one step further and say we also - mostly inadvertently I think - impose our expectations of what it is to be loved, those things that we think express or show love and affection. For example: I love holidays and birthdays. I love fussing over people during these times. It is an expression of my affection for them. My husband however, basically ignores them - his own birthday included. It took me many years to realize that his ignoring, forgetting and sometimes not even knowing (take your pick!) my birthday wasn’t because he doesn’t love me… But because I was unwittingly imposing my feelings onto him, it FELT that way.

    I also think that the “immediacy” of our electronic age has completely killed our patience. Love letter that take weeks to reach their intended recipient are obsolete as we expect declaration of affection in 30-second, 140 or less word “bytes.” No thank you!

    Interesting to wake up and reflect on this at a time when my partner is 3500 miles away (since Jan 12 and until Jan 28.)

    Thank you!

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    The Colors Magazine

    I guess today should be a lucky day since the partner is supposed to be back? :)

    I guess in a relationship we get adjusted to the ways the other person expresses their feelings. Just sometimes we want more. Selfish, ain’t we?

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    # 21 January 2010 at 3:45 pm
  • Brent Allard said:

    Hi Lena,

    Interesting post. On the surface I would agree that is usually the case. I don’t think it’s always that easy though (not that it’s ever easy really) A lot of it is that we all love and require love, in different ways. Some of us compartmentalize, and while we may love someone very much, don’t think to check in, as often as a partner who just puts it all out there. But certainly whenver two personalities are involved there are always inequities.

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    The Colors Magazine

    Yes, Brent, that is what I was trying to show in the post. In a way we all are different, can’t expect the other person to feel exact same way.

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    # 21 January 2010 at 9:09 pm
  • Kanwalful said:

    This is JUST how I feel. Wow… I’m overwhelmed right now.

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    The Colors Magazine

    I hope it was a temporary feeling :)

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    # 21 January 2010 at 9:41 pm
  • Ally said:

    Helooo
    Intresting…

    I like how you said maybe we shouldnt wonder

    Totally agreeing here !

    Thanks for this

    -Ally

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    The Colors Magazine

    I am glad you liked it :)

    Maybe we really should stop wondering…

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    # 24 January 2010 at 6:06 pm
  • Harini said:

    AWWWW So true!!! So very true!! I loved it! :) Harini´s last blog ..Kind of back My ComLuv Profile

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    The Colors Magazine

    Somehow I knew you would :D

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    # 25 January 2010 at 5:49 am
  • shinloo said:

    omg you totally speak my mind… :(
    and this post just makes me so sad…
    i feel it… i really do… :( shinloo´s last blog ..why i like it longer My ComLuv Profile

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    # 29 January 2010 at 7:04 am
  • Annie said:

    h! i love all ur stories! specialy this one! cuz is what i’ve been doing the past couple weeks… wondering… =(

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    # 7 February 2010 at 11:11 pm

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