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Top 5 of Woman’s Fears

2 July 2009 23 Comments

women fears 300x225 Top 5 of Woman’s FearsWe all have our phobias. Some are scared of snakes and spiders, some of water and heights, some run away from relationships and the list can go on and on and on. Interesting fact – women and men have different phobias. More than that - women can be afraid of things which make men excited and vice versa. Today we at The Colors Magazine will look at top – 5 of women’s fears.

#1 Fear of Unplanned Pregnancy

Weird enough, a woman whose greatest purpose is to be a mother, is afraid to get pregnant when it does not fit into her life schedule. What it depends upon, is tough to say, maybe we so want everything in life to be perfect that when things change their course accidentally it scares us.

Or maybe we are afraid we won’t be able to raise the child the best way when it comes unplanned.
Or maybe we are not sure if that’s the child from that one man we want to have a child with.
Or maybe we are not sure if the man would stay with us if we come to him with “Honey, we will have a baby soon.
Or maybe… Anyways I could go with maybe’s forever but I don’t know the answers. And maybe I never will.

It does not mean though if we freak out getting pregnant unexpectedly that we will be bad mothers. Because that’s not the fear of being a mother after all.

How to deal with that: Smart people use contraception. You only got to be sure, you are a smart one.

#2 Fear of Losing a Man

When I say a man I surely mean THE MAN. We spend a lot of our precious time searching for the right one… And then when found we spend the rest of our life fearing that he might leave us. Sometimes he does, so the fear is justified.

How to deal with that: Love yourself. He will love you too. I am not a relationships guru. Not even trying it, but I truly believe that if you are confident in yourself and your feelings he won’t leave you. Unless there is no love. But then he wouldn’t be the right one, would he?

#3 Fear of not Being Beautiful Enough or Losing Attractiveness

Ok, that’s quite close to the fear of getting old and the fear of losing a man. There are not many women who truly believe they look beautiful, but even they are afraid of the old age and losing their attractiveness. Hence special cosmetics, plastics surgeries etc etc etc. The fear does not disappear though, but plastic surgery industry sure profits.

How to deal with that: Healthy life style, positive emotions, loving people. Be happy, look beautiful.

#4 Fear of Getting Fat

If you check any magazine they all will tell you how to lose weight, which diet to implement and why you have to be slim. Of course being slim is healthy, but in the crazy run for being slimmer and slimmer, trying to fit into standards dictated by the society, media and Hollywood industry, many women lose themselves and never achieve the desired.

How to deal with that: Define the problem, consult the specialists, follow the instructions. Accept yourself the way you are and if someone does not, tell them to go to hell. Trust me, it will make you happier.

#5 Fear for Children

Since the moment a woman holds her little treasure in her arms till the end of her life she will not stop worrying. Health, education, hobbies, friends, leaving kids alone, first job, letting them live their adult life, etc etc etc. No matter how old the “Child” is the mother will always fear that something might go wrong.

How to deal with that: Tough if not impossible. Try to use your logic and fight the fears. Tell yourself you were a child too and everything went fine, same will be with your kids too. Believe in the best and stay positive. Don’t overstress about small issues but don’t ignore the big ones. A good mother will never stop worrying but can control her own fears.
Psychiatrists say having fears is normal, it’s when you don’t have them you should start worrying. So a little bit of scaring yourself might even be good for you.
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23 Comments »

  • Priya Joyce said:

    what u said is very true..specially my mum..she worries(fears) abt me always…it’s quite instinctive…motherhood n womanhood is far more complicated tan it seems to be.

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    The Colors Magazine

    yup, dear, absolutely agree with you, guess we will be able to understand, only when we have our own children :)

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  • Aniket said:

    #5 experienced a plenty.
    #1 would like to see that now wouldn’t I. :D :D But sure hope it never comes true. lol

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    The Colors Magazine

    guess we all had a lot of #5 :D
    as for #1, best of luck!!

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  • Amity Me said:

    I, too, as a woman have many fears, except No. 1 and 5, and the rest? They are fears that may or almost kill me.

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    The Colors Magazine

    its tough to deal with them,isnt it? I just hope there is more of good in life so that we wont have to concentrate on the scary part :)

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  • Amity Me said:

    but what kills me most is Fear No. 2…..

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    The Colors Magazine

    guess, you are not the only one

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  • Anna said:

    1, 4 and 5 its all me. 1 is not that bad anymore, 4 I recall once my mom said to my aunt, Anna has potential to be fat, and I think she is still waiting for me to be, sad but true. Most of all 5 is the worst one for me, I know I shouldn’t but I worry about Matthew all the time, even though he is healthy beautiful child. Thanks for excellent post Lena. Anna :)

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    The Colors Magazine

    i cant imagine you fat :D
    and for the next n years you will always be worried about Matthew, guess thats just natural :)

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  • Sourish said:

    hehehehehehe

    if u summarize ..women just fear changes..be it her figure or her status …. :)

    but sumwhere I read they get afraid of sudden exposure to male wee-wee too :O .. is it not number 1 ???? …hehehehe jk

    how are you ???

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    The Colors Magazine

    dont men fear changes?
    your number one sounds gross to me though
    i’ve been fine. You?

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  • -=A.R.N.=- said:

    Well to be fair, I guess if you leave aside #1, men have exactly the same fears too
    :)

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    The Colors Magazine

    might be, men dont share their fears with women, so i dont know :P

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  • Shachi said:

    Very true! It’s important to come to terms with yourself….I had all these insecurities during my 20’s and when I was single….at that time, I was still coming to peace with myself….now that I have (not 100% but way better than before), all this doesnt bother me as much.

    Children (having them and/or raising them) is still a huge insecurity….but I think I will be ready for the challenge when time comes….

    Good article!

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    The Colors Magazine

    Thanks for coming by :)
    I agree that the most important thing is to be at peace with yourself, there is nothing we cant overcome :)

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  • Anna said:

    Hey Lena is everything okay! We miss you. Anna :)

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    The Colors Magazine

    everything is fine, i am back now :)

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  • Lynne Eve Grossman said:

    Yes, these are common. Although this material is not new to me, you wrote it well. As a mom, I relate to #5.

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  • Lynne Eve Grossman said:

    Lena, I’m sorry I put in the wrong website for the comments above, so when you go to find me, please click on this website link, not the other one. (That other website is not up and running yet. ) This one IS working. So good to see you! :)

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    The Colors Magazine

    am so happy to see you here :)
    but unfortunately cant visit your site, it asks for some username and password each time :|

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  • Anna said:

    Hey Lena, facebook buzz told me you are back, hope to see you soon! Anna :)

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