“Most people love you for who you pretend to be… to keep their love, you keep pretending–performing. You get to love your pretense… it’s true; we’re locked in an image, an act. And, the sad thing is, people get so used to their image–they grow attached to their masks. They love their chains. They forget all about who they really are. And, if you try to remind them, they hate you for it. They feel like you’re trying to steal their most precious possession.”

We are so afraid that we are not good enough for people we love that we try to meet some expectations and be the ones we suppose they want us to see. And with time we get used to this image and believe that is the true “us”. Losing the identity, trying to be someone we are not and being happy about it until one fine day when it turns out that our loved ones don’t want to love this “made” person you invented – they want to love the real you. The real you who do not exist anymore because you have no idea who this true “YOU” is.

And then eventually it will lead to a break up because someone you love cant put up with the “YOU” you have pretended to be. Why it happens this way? Why cant you from the very beginning just be yourself, tell things that you want to tell, wear clothes that you want to wear, laugh when you want to laugh, be real, be YOU?? Too afraid to lose someone so important, so special?

But if they love you why would they worry about you being incapable sitting still, or being not able to grasp the concept of cleaning? Why would someone for whom you mean a WORLD worry about your overreactions at any given moment? Why would they hate you for decisions you have once taken even if they were wrong? Even if they know you would regret them afterwards?

The one who loves you got the right to know who you are. Even if you are completely mad they would love you nevertheless, so why to hide? We put this mask often trying to be better than we are. But don’t you think if they have already CHOSEN you and love you, you are already the BEST for them.

There will come a time in your life when you will become infatuated with a single soul. For this person you’d do anything and not think twice about it, but when asked why … you have no answer. You’ll try your whole life to understand how a single person can affect you as much as they do, but you’ll never find out. And no matter how badly you hate it or how badly it hurts … you’ll love this person without regret, for the rest of your life.

That’s how you feel, right? But why do you assume they don’t feel the same way? Because they do. And in this case they don’t care what you look like, what nonsense you talk, what silly questions you ask. They don’t care about anything external. Important for them is only what is inside of you. And inside there is LOVE. Big, unique, amazing feeling of love. Then give it to them, show them they are important instead of wasting time for becoming a person you are not.

“Eventually you’ll meet someone right for you. And whether you share a minute, a month, or a lifetime with them is uncertain. But the fact that you found that person, even if for a moment, means more than the lifespan life allows you to have with them”.
- Marielena Roig

You do not know how much time you are given. Use it with sense. Be who you are! This loving, caring, sweet, funny person he/she fell in love with in the first place. The one you love will not want to have the other YOU, because in the whole world you are unique and the only one who is able to give this warmth of being loved.

Love is a feeling, not a decision. You can’t choose who you love, you can’t give any reasons for that, you can’t understand why they love you . If you could it would be simpler… but a lot less magical.

Let the magic be!