Life after death: being happy after a break-up
Everyone knows what break-up is. 95 % of people suffered the pain it brings. You know what it is like. You get attacked by grief . You experience a feeling of a great loss. You wish it would be different but you can’t help it. One day you were dreaming of spending the rest of your life with someone you love so deeply. And the next day they are gone. And all that is left to you are memories and questions. And you have a tough time to decide what is more painful? Memories that keep you being stuck in the past and wondering what if…
Or questions that are troubling you, haunting you and forming lots of insecurities.
Questions that are a real torture.
Questions that make you believe you are not good enough.
And you are seeking for the answers within yourself, within your past, within your life.
But nobody has all the answers, though we all do have our whys.
The heroine of Kate Winslett in “The Holiday” said:
It doesn’t matter how many new haircuts you get, or gyms you join, or how many glasses of chardonnay you drink with your girlfriends… you still go to bed every night going over every detail and wonder what you did wrong or how you could have misunderstood… and how in the hell for that brief moment you could think that you were that happy. And sometimes you can even convince yourself that he’ll see the light and show up at your door.
After the first moments of shock, disbelief, tears, anger the time of HOPE comes. The Hope that they would realize what they have lost and will be back. That’s a false hope - most of them never come back. Some do but things are never the same. And the sooner you realize it’s never going to be back the way it was the sooner you will move on.
Sometimes the state of pain lasts for months or even years. And then pain can become such a big part of your life that you expect it to be there forever, because you can’t remember a time in your life when you didn’t feel it. But then one day you feel something else, something that feels wrong, something absolutely different, so much unfamiliar. And in that moment you realize you’re happy.
And still quoting Kate Winslett:
And after all that, however long all that may be, you’ll go somewhere new. And you’ll meet people who make you feel worthwhile again. And little pieces of your soul will finally come back. And all that fuzzy stuff, those years of your life that you wasted, that will eventually begin to fade…
And then you will be happy again. Because it is okay to let yourself be happy, after all you never know how fleeting that happiness might be.
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wonderful post and so true…..
being in brkup phase makes me connect to the post so well….
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Holiday? i’ve watched said movie several times already. I like the plot, the twist and everything in it plus the settings of the story. Nice post, Lena!
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First of all thanks so much for your comment on my blog about the animals. I like your blog a lot because so many people have to go through the heart break of a break up. Been a long time since that has happened to me, and it is horrible. Great blog.
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Lovely post Lena.
Having passed through the 5 stages of grief, I can totally relate to it.
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I’m probably one of those few weirdos who can’t relate to this…but I think its wonderfully written!
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i tried to comment and it din accept it!
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okies, i coomment again:this is wut i said :
hugz.. i feel like cin ya, fel like talking to ya now!!
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Nice new blog Lena!
And great post as usual. Breakups are hard to get over, but we must realise that life still goes on and that anything is POSSIBLE.
Keshi.
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There are no hopes… when the heart breaks!!
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Exactly what i needed right now! Thank you for such an inspiring article!
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@ Sourish:
@ Venelyn:
i loved the movie too
@ Margaret:
Welcome here, glad to hear that you liked my blog. Yes, break ups can be horrible, but they are at times inevitable and maybe even for the best, though we dont want to accept this at first.
@ -=A.R.N.=-
then you are a lucky one
@ Anil:
you are always only a mail away
@ Keshi:
welcome here, dear
and yes, that possible, you are right, its exactly what i wanted to say
@ Anonymous:
And hope is always there, else life falls apart
I like people to have names
@ Alicia:
And welcome here in my blog!
I am glad you found it inspiring, hope it could help
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Sometimes after the breakup, the couple decide to revisit and open the closed chapter. They realize that it will not work out. That’s when the pain becomes still deeper.. Any remedy for this one….
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Awesome post!
Its a very difficult feeling…Unless the concerned person decides to get over it no 1 can help!
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@ Suresh:
I don’t think so… it is pretty tough to rebuild trust and respect after they are lost, not everyone can do.. and if we fail one more time in the same relationship, yup, it will hurt even more… so we got to gain all our strength and move on.
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@ Ponnarasi:
absolutely agree, no matter how much friends are willing to help, nobody actually can.. you got to do it alone.
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Break ups might be horrible.
On the other hand, even with real death there is life after death:
http://www.whatwasdone.com/Age.php?&Age=-1
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